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Wonder Mother Is On A Mission To Supply Nutritional Support To Moms

Wonder Mother Is On A Mission To Supply Nutritional Support To Moms

Wonder_Mother_Tablet2 2Between pregnancy, delivery and sleepless nights with a newborn, healthy new moms often find themselves feeling exhausted. While there are supplements out there for moms to boost milk supply or replenish nutritional deficiencies, what do moms who are not lacking anything (except energy) to do improve their stamina and well being? Wonder Mother answers that question with their effervescent tablet designed for breastfeeding women.

What’s more, Wonder Mother will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles.  A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, and the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS:  To be alerted for when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA, sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

We spoke with Lelia Scheu, Founder & CEO of Wonder Mother, to learn more about the brand and what new parents can expect at the LA Baby Show.

For someone unfamiliar with Wonder Mother, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?

At Wonder Mother, we believe every mother is a wonder mother! We also think there is not enough to support women during their transition to motherhood and as they raise children. At Wonder Mother, we develop and manufacture nutritional support products for mothers to help them stay healthy and strong from childbirth and beyond.

Tell us about the company’s background. When did it start and how has it evolved since then?

We started this company to address the needs of moms. I was feeling drained and tired with a newborn, and was surprised to find very little on the market in terms of nutritional supplements for new and nursing moms. There were herbs to increase milk supply, and doctors recommended continuing to take pre-natals, but I didn’t find much for someone like myself – with adequate milk supply but looking for a nutritional supplement!

I met with lactation consultants, midwives, nutritionists, did lots of my own research, and came up with the formula here. We originally wanted to be in brink-and-mortar grocery stores, but have found the barriers to getting into them are challenging for a small startup. Now we are focusing on web sales and bringing the products directly to moms.

What are the most popular and/or newest products from Wonder Mother?

We will never be a large organization that has hundreds of products. We will always focus on having a few core products that are designed to address the needs of our market. Right now we have only one, our inaugural product which is an effervescent tablet designed for breastfeeding women. It’s safe for all women (of course check with your medical person first). It contains herbal extracts to support breastfeeding, minerals, electrolytes, and probiotics. We have a mulit-vitamin and an energy formula in the works, and they are all designed to be safe taken together (or separately).

What sets Wonder Mother apart from other companies in the baby marketplace?

Sadly, there aren’t many companies with maternal nutrition as their focus. Our company is so small and young that our mission is inseparable from our product – we personally and professionally want to see moms feel their best. That’s it, really simple.

What can parents expect from Wonder Mother at the LA Baby Show?

We don’t have anything flashy planned, but you will meet the mom behind the product and can take home the assurance that Wonder Mother is here for you! You can try our product (remember it’s effervescent so we’ll have some dissolved in water) and purchase our product with a discount.

GOOD + Foundation Helps To Break The Cycle Of Family Poverty

GOOD + Foundation Helps To Break The Cycle Of Family Poverty

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Often those cute little outfits from the baby shower only fit for a few days because babies grow so incredibly fast. It’s a shame to just throw away clothes that no longer fit so many moms donate their old baby clothes. The GOOD+ Foundation goes a step further, and collects donated items to help break the cycle of family poverty.

What’s more, the GOOD + Foundation will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS: To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

We spoke with a member of the GOOD + Foundation, to learn more about the brand and what new parents can expect at the LA Baby Show.

For someone unfamiliar with GOOD + Foundation, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?

GOOD + Foundation partners with a national network of leading programs to break the cycle of family poverty through the power of donated children’s product and transformational services.

Tell us about the company’s background. When did it start and how has it evolved since then?

Jessica Seinfeld founded the organization in 2001 shortly after the birth of her first child.  She was struck by how expensive it is to buy equipment for a new baby and then how quickly they outgrow it.  She searched for a mechanism to redistribute clothing and gear her daughter, and friends’ children, had outgrown so the donations would directly benefit families in need.  Jessica quickly understood that you can help a baby, but if the parent(s) is struggling, there is only so much that will change in that baby’s life. That’s where the organization’s approach changed to being focused on the entire family.

Today GOOD+ Foundation partners with programs that have demonstrated a capacity to address family poverty in three focus areas: Supporting New Mothers, Investing in Early Childhood and Engaging Fathers.  Through the generous support of donors and over 50,000 volunteers, GOOD+ Foundation has donated over $35 million in essential children’s product through its partner network across the United States. The organization has been rated 4-Stars by Charity Navigator and received national accreditation from the Better Business Bureau Wise Giving Alliance for its efficient fundraising and operations.  For more information visit www.goodplusfoundation.org, or Like us on Facebook at GOOD+ Foundation and follow us on Twitter and Instagram @GoodPlusFdn.

What are the most popular and/or newest programs from GOOD + Foundation? 

In 2014 the organization launched an initiative to promote and expand fatherhood programs and father-inclusive practices across social service sites to help make families stronger.  The Fatherhood Leadership Council is led by Jerry Seinfeld and is comprised of nearly 60 fathers.  These men help raise awareness and funds for this initiative, which focuses on engaging fathers with their children. Many things can sidetrack men from their responsibilities as fathers – loss of a job or legal problems – because the most common, cyclical problem is dads who grew up without a father themselves — or with a father who might not have been a positive role model.

GOOD+ Foundation partners provide support in many ways including positive parenting strategies, improving the relationship with the child’s mother, and helping a father establish his role within the family. Fathers learn financial literacy, receive support in getting GED’s, and job and vocational training.

What sets GOOD + Foundation apart from other charities?

Our model is what makes us unique.  GOOD+ Foundation donations help parents stay motivated to keep appointments with their social workers, attend workshops and meet long-term goals such as getting a GED or opening a savings account. Program partners report to us that our donations help reduce parental stress by helping to provide for the needs of their children (100%), help clients/families they serve meet program goals (97%), and help retain families in their programs (88%).

What can parents expect to see from GOOD + Foundation at the LA Baby Show and the future in general?

Parents can expect to meet members of the GOOD+ team to learn about what they can do to be involved… everything from donating new or gently used clothing, gear and essentials to celebrating the birth of their child or milestones by creating their own GIVE GOOD Campaign on our website.

To learn more about GOOD+ Foundation, check out goodplusfoundation.org.

Cookies For Kids’ Cancer Supports Grassroots Fundraising In The Fight Against Pediatric Cancer

Cookies For Kids’ Cancer Supports Grassroots Fundraising In The Fight Against Pediatric Cancer

Cookies-for-Kids-Cancer-Logo_With_Website-1-300x300Cookies for Kids’ Cancer is an inspiring organization dedicated to raising funds for developing new, improved pediatric cancer treatments. They empower businesses, individuals, and organizations to “Be a good cookie” and raise funds by hosting grassroots bake sales and other events.Cookies for Kids’ Cancer will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS: To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

We spoke with a member of the Cookies for Kids’ Cancer team to learn more about the brand and what new parents can expect at the LA Baby Show.

 For someone unfamiliar with Cookies for Kids’ Cancer, how would you describe the organization’s mission and core projects?

Cookies for Kids’ Cancer, a national 501(c)3 non-profit, is committed to raising funds for research to develop new, improved treatments for pediatric cancer, the #1 disease killer of children in the U.S. We provide inspiration and support for individuals, businesses and organizations to raise funds by hosting grassroots bake sales and other fundraising events.

 Tell us about the organization’s background—how did it get started and how has it grown? 

When 2-year-old Liam Witt was diagnosed with childhood cancer in 2007, his parents Larry and Gretchen were shocked to learn of the lack of effective treatments for pediatric cancers due to lack of funding. They pledged to support the funding of research for safer, more effective treatments for children battling cancer. In 2007, with the help of 250 volunteers, his mom Gretchen baked and sold 96,000 cookies, raising more than $400,000 for research. Word spread, and people nationwide began asking, “How can I help?” That’s how Cookies for Kids’ Cancer was born. Now, 7.5 years later, Cookies has granted $10 million to fund 80 childhood cancer research grants resulting in 32 new treatments now in clinical trial, available to children today. Good Cookies across the globe have hosted more than 7,000 events in all 50 states and 16 countries.

What are the most popular ways for kids and families to get involved with/ support Cookies for Kids’ Cancer?

We encourage individuals to Be a Good Cookie and get involved in their community through fundraising. This can take the form of a bake sale, a 5K, a lacrosse tournament, a cookie swap, a dress down day at school or really anything that inspires a supporter! The possibilities are unlimited and we provide step-by-step to all of our supporters no matter how they choose to Be a Good Cookie.

What makes Cookies for Kids’ Cancer different from other organizations in this space?

Cookies for Kids’ Cancer provides annual research grants to five of the nation’s leading pediatric cancer centers to advance the development of less toxic, more effective treatments for children battling cancer.  Each year grants are reviewed and given under the guidance of the Medical Advisory Board. We are also proud to say as of 2013, a portion of funds raised are also used to DOUBLE, dollar for dollar, the federal allowance per child enrolled in the Children’s Oncology Group’s Phase I & Pilot Consortium.

What can parents except to see from Cookies for Kids’ Cancer at the LA Baby Show and in the future in general?

We will be hosting a bake sale! We hope all of the families can stop by and taste some delicious treats from our cookbook and learn more about our organization. Also, families should be on the lookout for bake sales year-round plus our two signature events in the city: Be a Good Cookie Family Fun Day (a cookie and activity palooza for kids of all ages) and Chefs for Kids’ Cancer (an annual dinner featuring th city’s most beloved chefs preparing meals for individual tables).

To learn more, visit cookiesforkidscancer.org!

 

Feel Chic And Sexy In Hotmilk’s Maternity Lingerie

Feel Chic And Sexy In Hotmilk’s Maternity Lingerie

RESIZE-HOTMILK-VanessaHeroand-logo-300x199Typically, the maternity and nursing lingerie offered in the marketplace look old-fashioned and frumpy. For the modern day, chic woman, those choices are uninspiring. Hotmilk, an award-winning lingerie brand, wants to change that. Founded by two moms, the celeb-approved brand designs stylish and practical lingerie so expectant and new mommies can feel fabulous, empowered, and sexy. And to help new mommies on their fitness journey, Hotmilk created a nursing sports bra. Between the leopard prints and lace patterns, moms will feel glamorous inside and out!

Hotmilk will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS: To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

We spoke with a member of the Hotmilk team, Michelle Radley, to learn more about the brand and what new parents can expect at the LA Baby Show.

For someone unfamiliar with Hotmilk, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?

Designed by mothers for mothers, Hotmilk has revolutionized the nursing lingerie market with its provocative and fashion forward styling. Hotmilk offers premium products at accessible prices, and our philosophy is to celebrate and empower women via a fresh, creative approach. Our goal is to create an exquisitely sophisticated nursing lingerie brand that’s empowering, feminine, practical, and sexy!

Tell us about Hotmilk’s background. When did Hotmilk start? How has it evolved over time?

When pregnant with her first child, co-founder Lisa Ebbing felt limited by the uninspiring choices of maternity lingerie on the market. She teamed up with longtime, like-minded friend, Ange Sloan, and Hotmilk is now stocked in an impressive 47 countries, six continents, and over 800 retail stores. The progressive business impacts the lives of hundreds of thousands of women around the globe and is embraced by Hollywood celebrities, international fashion magazines, and worn by everyone, from the chic fashionista to the girl next door.

What are the most popular and newest products from Hotmilk?

Our most popular item is the My Necessity Hospital/Sleep/Yoga Bra. It stretches and grows up to three cup sizes so it’s the ideal style for when you’re about to give birth and through those initial weeks after your baby’s arrival when things are changing. Our newest development is in the nursing sports bra realm. All mothers want to regain their fitness so it’s a natural step for us to now offer high impact and low impact sports bras for nursing mothers.

What sets Hotmilk apart from other maternity and nursing lingerie brands?

In a sea of dull, old-fashioned nursing bras, Hotmilk is empowering, feminine, practical, and sexy!

What can parents expect to see from Hotmilk at the LA Baby Show?

Our critical focus for the show is to guide mothers into the right bra for the right stage of their motherhood journey. We’ll be offering advice on how to correctly fit bras and we’ll help mothers figure out what bras are best suited for them based on the stage they are at with their pregnancy/breastfeeding. We believe you need three bras: one on the body, one in the drawer, and one in the wash. To complement this, we have a special Baby Show offer for all moms: Buy two nursing bras and get a third one free!

To learn more about Hotmilk, check out hotmilklingerie.com.

Create Memories At The 2017 LA Baby Show With Canon

Create Memories At The 2017 LA Baby Show With Canon

CanonSeeImpossible_CMYK_XLCanon is a brand name synonymous with top quality, state of the art photography equipment that millions rely upon to capture and print memories that will last a lifetime. A leader in the imaging field as well as a longtime innovator in the photographic equipment field, Canon has branched out to incorporate business solution offerings as well as medical applications.

Canon will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS: To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

To learn more about Canon, we spoke with Noelyn Rodney, the company’s event management associate specialist.

For someone unfamiliar with Canon, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?  

Our mission is to provide world-class imaging solutions, whether for our consumer, professional or industrial customers.  For new and growing families our line of cameras and photo printers helps to preserve memories that you’ll want to cherish for a lifetime.

Tell us about the company’s background. When did it start and how has it evolved since then?

Canon began as a small camera company 80 years ago, since then we have evolved into a leading imaging company branching out beyond photography into business solutions, medical applications and more.
 
What are the most popular and/or newest products from Canon?

Attendees at the Baby Show will appreciate the ease and quality of the EOS Rebel T7i, our top of the line entry-level DSLR camera.  The camera has intuitive and easy to use controls, creative shooting modes and the ability to take manual control as you get more comfortable. With over 60 EF lenses to choose from you’ll also be able to grow your camera system along with your family. Once you’ve taken your photos what better way to display and share your memories than by printing them out. The Pixma TS9020 is easy to use and the vibrant, long lasting colors will preserve your memories for generations.
 
What sets Canon apart in the camera marketplace?

Canon is the only company with complete input to output solutions from cameras to printers, ensuring your photos look exactly as you envision them. We also offer still and video solutions for everyone from beginner to pro so as your skills and confidence grow you’ll be able to add more creative options.
 
What can parents expect from Canon at the LA Baby Show?

We’ll be taking photos and providing a print as a keepsake of the Baby Show experience and offering hands-on demos of our cameras with some of our photo experts to help you make the right choice. There’ll also be seminars featuring fun and informative tips so you can start taking great photos right away.

 

To learn more about Canon, check out usa.canon.com.

Rock Your Baby To Sleep With Hushamok’s Baby Hammock

Rock Your Baby To Sleep With Hushamok’s Baby Hammock

Screen Shot 2017-07-09 at 3Rocking your baby to sleep has just become easier with Hushamok! The company’s elegant baby hammock’s smooth motion comforts babies in a safe environment, and its MySeat hammock gives older children a place of their own to veg out.

Hushamok will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS:  To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

To learn more about Hushamok, we spoke with Julie Soboil, the company’s founder.

For someone unfamiliar with Hushamok, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?

WaterWipes’ All-Natural Wipes Gently Cleanse Your Baby’s Skin

WaterWipes’ All-Natural Wipes Gently Cleanse Your Baby’s Skin

Single-Pack-300x200WaterWipes is an Irish company offering extremely pure and natural baby wipes that are hypoallergenic. Designed to prevent rashes and other skin reactions, these wipes are just the ticket for your baby’s super sensitive skin.

WaterWipes will be at the 2017 LA Baby Show, on November 4 and 5, at the Magic Box at the REEF, in DTLA, when the nation’s largest show for expectant and new families returns to Los Angeles. A family-friendly mega-event featuring everything to do with maternity, baby, and toddler – from top products to trusted parenting experts – the LA Baby Show will welcome thousands of expectant and new parents from Los Angeles County, the surrounding counties, and beyond!

Tickets to the LA Baby Show are $30 per family, and $20 per individual.

FOR TICKET INFO & OTHER BABY NEWS: To be alerted when tickets first go on sale, and to plug into other news, trends, and resources of interest to expectant and new families in LA,  sign up for our free LA Baby Newsletter.

To learn more about WaterWipes, we spoke with Leah Rosenfeld, a member of the company’s US public relations team.

For someone unfamiliar with WaterWipes, how would you describe the company’s mission and core offerings?

There is nothing more delicate than a baby’s skin, and that requires cleaning it with the purest and gentlest ingredients possible. WaterWipes are carefully designed to be gentle on babies’ sensitive skin, are the world’s purest baby wipes and dedicated to providing skincare peace of mind for everyone.

WaterWipes are made with just two ingredients; 99.9% water, specially purified and softened, and a tiny drop of grapefruit seed extract, 0.1%, a natural skin conditioner. Because they are hypoallergenic, WaterWipes do not irritate the skin, instead, they may help prevent diaper rash and other skin conditions.

Tell us about the company’s background. When did it start and how has it evolved since then?

WaterWipes were developed in Ireland by creator and CEO, Edward McCloskey. McCloskey was a father in need of a solution to his daughter’s sensitive skin and severe diaper rash. After doctor appointments and investigating different wipe brands, he couldn’t believe how many harmful chemicals were in the average baby wipe.

He was determined to create a purer and safe alternative. After years of scientific research and development, and the discovery of unique patented technology, the perfect baby wipes were born: pure, natural and 100% chemical free. Since then, new moms and dads around the globe are continuing to discover the benefits of chemical free, gentle and safe wipes for their baby’s skin.

What are the most popular and/or newest products from WaterWipes?

WaterWipes are sold in a variety of quantities, including a Super Value Box, Value Pack and Travel Pack. This way, WaterWipes is able to offer new parents a variety of supply to meet their baby’s needs at different stages, beginning from birth to toddler years.

What sets WaterWipes apart in the baby marketplace?

WaterWipes are the purest baby wipe in the world and fully transparent with its two ingredients: 99.9% water and 0.1% grapefruit seed extract.  These are ingredients that parents can easily read and know are safe for their baby. WaterWipes provide parents the peace of mind of knowing exactly what is on their baby’s skin. Additionally, many parents feel comfortable knowing that WaterWipes can be used for cleaning hands and faces, and even in between bath time, as they are chemical free.

What can parents expect from WaterWipes at the LA Baby Show?

Parents can expect to meet with our experts to learn more about why WaterWipes is the best choice for their baby. They will be able to feel, smell and test the product, take home samples and receive coupons. Parents will also be able to ask our experts any questions they may have such as optimal usage and storage. We hope that parents will leave feeling informed and inspired to try WaterWipes.

 

To learn more about WaterWipes, check out waterwipes.com.

Insect Protection Do’s & Don’ts From Dr. Tanya Altmann

Insect Protection Do’s & Don’ts From Dr. Tanya Altmann

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With summer comes mosquitoes and mosquito bites. While it can seem like all repellants are the same and that they all offer safe and easy one-step protection for all ages, that’s usually not the case, especially when it comes to babies. Here are six do’s and six don’ts to keep in mind when using repellent to protect your little ones from insects this summer.

Do:

1. Keep your infants and young child’s skin covered as much as possible in lightweight clothing and try to cover exposed skin, such as tucking pants into socks.

2. Consider using a mosquito net over your stroller or infant carrier.

3. Choose insect repellents approved for use of children and follow directions on the package.

4. Apply insect repellent to clothing (instead of directly to the skin when possible), such as around ends of sleeves, pants and socks to avoid flying insects from being attracted to nearby skin. Only apply to exposed skin when needed.

5. After coming inside or before bed, wash off insect repellent with a hypoallergenic baby wash designed to moisturize, like Baby Dove Rich Moisture Tip to Toe Wash.

6. Wash insect repellent off your children’s clothing before they wear them again.

Don’t:

1. Don’t use fragranced products such as scented laundry detergent or lotions as that can attract biting insects.

2. Don’t use repellents that contain more than 30 percent DEET in young children.

3. Don’t use insect repellent on babies under 2 months of age.

4. Avoid using sunscreen and insect repellent combination products because sunscreen should be reapplied frequently and insect repellant should not as that can overexpose your infant to components of the insect repellent.

5. Don’t apply insect repellent near the eyes or mouth or on hands in young children who may put their hands in their mouth

6. Don’t store products within children’s reach or let children apply their own repellent.

Dr. Tanya Altmann is a UCLA-trained pediatrician who, in addition to being a working mother and releasing her two books (What to Feed Your Baby: A Pediatrician’s Guide to the 11 Essential Foods to Guarantee Veggie-Loving, No-Fuss, Healthy-Eating Kids and Mommy Calls: Dr. Tanya Answers Parents’ Top 101 Questions About Babies and Toddlers), has also been featured as a child heal expert on numerous news national TV programs. She has served on the board of the National Association of Medical Communicators and the executive board of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ Committee on Communications and Media. She is also the official medical advocate for Baby Dove. Learn more about her at drtanya.com!

Jancee Dunn’s New Book Is A Field Guide For The Modern Marriage

Jancee Dunn’s New Book Is A Field Guide For The Modern Marriage

Reading How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids is like talking to your well-read best friend. That’s because the book’s bestselling author, acclaimed journalist Jancee Dunn, feels your pain. She too has been a frustrated mom; she knows why dads act the way they do (it’s part evolutionary, part neurological), and she helps couples manage those tricky first 30 years of parenthood.

In How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids, Dunn also explains why high-earning dads help less than those who bring home a smaller pay check. We interviewed her recently on why she wrote her book, lessons she’s learned since then, and why you’re not the only woman to want to poison the father of her child.

Your book has the best title of any book ever.

It certainly grabs your attention, doesn’t it? The publisher and I figured that if you’re a woman who just had a baby and are deranged, you need something simple and clear and direct.

It’s good even if your kids are teenagers.

I do hear that a lot. I’ve heard it’s also good for empty-nesters who need to get along with their spouse again after the kids have left. It’s basically how to fight like grownups, so it applies to any age.

What inspired you to write this book?

It’s the book I wish I had read when I was pregnant, despite the fact that the title might frighten you about having children. I wish there had been a book that would prepare me—you would still fight, but you would know how to handle it. Also, I wrote it because our marriage was in trouble. I could also see our child’s personality changing. It was the classic thing—we’d be sweet with the kid and curt with each other. That’s stupid, and my daughter knew something was up. I naively thought that she’d be fine because we were not taking anything out on her. If you’re fighting in a small Brooklyn apartment, you are taking it on her, indirectly.

I underlined passages that reminded me of my husband, and after seeing it in print, I felt like I could let some things go. Because it’s not just my husband. It’s a universal truth.

When our daughter was born, I felt really alone. I felt like no one was going through this except me. Even my close friends didn’t tell me how much they were fighting with their husbands. They would tell me years later, but we all kept it from each other because you feel little ashamed maybe or self-conscious.

You write about the jingling of the keys, when the dad is ready to leave the apartment and the mom is still getting herself ready after having fed, dressed, and packed up the children. He wants to know why it always takes her so long.

I would tell him: “Yelling ‘let’s go’ won’t get us out the door any faster. What would help is saying: ‘what can I do?’” He would genuinely be baffled about why I would run out the door with no makeup, in some insane, crazy outfit. And he’d say: “We’ve got to get started earlier.”

You interview an army of experts and cite tons of research. My favorite was the report that explained why men don’t get up for a crying baby at night: They actually don’t hear it. They’re hardwired to hear the overall danger to the family, whereas women hear the offspring.

There is research in sub-conscious brain activity in sleeping men and women. They found that the night time sounds most likely to wake up a woman (like a crying baby) weren’t even in the male top 10. Men would hear car alarms, strong winds, and heavy rain. Researchers figured out that it must have been because men were more responsive to disturbances that posed a larger threat to the whole clan. As for women, their job for millennia was raising babies, so they are more responsive to threats to the baby. Just knowing some of this stuff at least might have calmed me down a little bit. I used to just seethe.

Have you been able to sustain the lessons you learned while writing the book?

No matter what expert I consulted—whether it was a couples’ counselor or FBI crisis negotiator or a home organizer—everyone said the same thing: Clarity. Clarity. Clarity. Fights arise when things are not clear, when roles are not clear, feelings are not clear, when chores are not clear. On weekends, we would fight about who deserved to rest more and who deserved not to do chores. Every weekend we were starting anew. It’s a terrible way to go about things. Now, we divvy up everything. One person sleeps in on Saturday, one sleeps in on Sunday. I needed to increase my communication with him. I was not telling him, in a very clear way, what I needed. I went for emotional rather of practical. I would yell things like: “I’m doing everything around here.” That doesn’t help. It doesn’t give you a way forward. So last week I said: “I’m cleaning up the dishes and can you come over here and help me out?”

But even when you say what you need, you still get the: “I’ll be there in a second.”

I would be doing the dinner dishes and ask for help, and [my husband] would say: “Let it soak.” I would say to him that I needed to get in the kitchen to do other things. I would tell him that activity in the kitchen never stops… Over and over again, I would quietly lead him into another room and shut the door, stick our kid in front of Minecraft, and in a calm voice say: “When you say ‘in a minute,’ you treat this like an option.” I would tell him that things around the house take work; things don’t magically happen. I don’t have options; I just have to get things done.

Your husband came off very well in book, even when he was playing chess on his computer. Did he ask you to change anything?

He just confirmed things. He’s a journalist, so he kept saying: “What matters to me is to tell the truth.” He kept saying that readers can sense when you’re BS’ing them.

Your research is for heterosexual couples, but your insight seems it would apply for same-sex couples as well.

There’s usually a primary parent in every relationship—either same-sex or not—who does more of the work. And that can engender resentment, no matter who you are. But there is more research emerging about same-sex couples. They seem to be getting a lot of this stuff right that heterosexuals are not.

Do you see yourself falling into any parenting traps with your daughter the way you did with your husband?

I need to be consistent with her the way I am with him.

To learn more about Jancee Dunn, visit janceedunn.net!

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Maclaren X Dylan’s Candy Bar

Maclaren X Dylan’s Candy Bar

Two of the most recognizable names in the children and family space—Dylan’s Candy Bar and Maclaren—have joined forces in the sweetest way this year!

Just launched earlier this summer, the Maclaren X Dylan’s Candy Bar collection is a line of limited edition Maclaren strollers (including the Volo, the Quest, and the Junior Quest models) designed with Dylan’s Candy Bar’s signature aesthetic of vibrant stripes and colorful candies.

“As a mom myself, I wanted to design a stroller that was not only fun for kids, but for parents, too,” says Dylan Lauren, founder and CEO of Dylan’s Candy Bar.

To learn more, visit maclaren.us!

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